After JMathis’ intro to this month’s all encompassing mystery of guys , my mouth is so full, I can barely get anything out! So, let’s see . . . there is the boy of my life, QK, who melts my heart, amazes me with his seven year old spiritual understanding and stands by me like the little knight in shining armour that he is. There are my two brothers. My mom’s new husband. My husband. My dad already in heaven. My pastor. All the guys at the office (who say the darndest things – – like it’s so cold, my nipples are freezing). My step grandpa who has been there for thirty years. My “real” grandpa who walked back into our lives after thirty years. My ex-step dad who keeps trying to walk back in.
At this stage in the game, Tanya is probably married to her father figure and Stacy is probably already divorced from the bad guy. And with a straight face, I am going to blame it all on Eve. JMathis hit it on the mark when she said: Whether you realize it or not, any boy in your life has to contend with the consequences of how well you have reconciled yourself to both your earthly father, as well as your Heavenly Father.
Having been through a lot in the way of father figures over the years, I have learned in my own heart the miraculous healing power of seeing pain and loss in the light of my Heavenly Father. The day He showed me I was valuable even though giving my best didn’t satisfy my father-in-law. The day He showed me how important my dad’s imperfections were to my understanding of His grace. The day He showed me, as a mother to my son, I can overcome just about anything with His instruction and true, pure love.
Yes, we will have fun this month grappling with the men in our lives. Some of them act like men, others like boys. Some are little sons acting just their age. Some are already gone but have left power thumbprints on our lives. But most of all, at the center of it all, we have our heavenly Father leading the way, showing the light, and somehow, growing us all up to be like Christ.