The resolution hoopla is about to begin. My first resolution email came today (but I actually loved it, feel free to check it out Real Change Starts with You by Dr. Nicholas Jenner). The chatter comes from every direction. Weight. Toxic Relationships. Bad Habits of all sorts. I think it’s the balanced life that most of us seek. The truth is that some of us make resolutions and don’t keep them. Some of us refuse to make them because we know we never keep them. My mom tends to think they’re stupid because you should be seeking positive change year round. A lot of resolutions will be made and some will be kept. Just like in the years past.
I’ve taken my mom’s lead on resolutions. I don’t normally have them just once a year. Sometimes I have the smaller ones daily or weekly, but I try to reassess everything every three to six months. I looked back on my general list from last year. I planned to be flexible, intentional and supportive. It’s hard to let yourself be the judge of that, but I think I sought after those characteristics and reached success in some areas of my life. I had a few financial goals. I don’t feel comfortable saying that I passed, but I don’t think I completely failed either. I had a charitable goal in regard to giving and becoming a voice for a handful of organizations. As the year comes to a close, I think I did that. Not perfectly, room for improvement and change this year, but I can half smile about that part of my list.
Ministry and parenting were on my list this year. I committed to my ministry plans and I think I accomplished them. Although in the larger scheme of things, I am not a parenting fail (as my son would say), but I am seeking the most improvement in this area. Really praying for the Lord to keep my kids small voices in balance with my work life’s loud voice. (I have a lot more to say on this later.) And, the truth is, wife to my husband was not even on my list! (Shame on me, I think?)
Today, I have had the pleasure of being home alone for the last several hours with my thoughts and plans for 2015. Somewhere between The Eisenhower Matrix, a weekly graph from The 7 Habits of a Highly Effective Person and my desire to serve God with the time He has given me, I am half way to being where I want to be in 2015. Meaning the first few months of the year.
One of the neat practices I recently adopted when planning my time is to keep my roles in tact. The order of them changes with the different callings of each week. But I keep them at the forefront of my planning. Business partner, Writer/Reader, Wife, Mother, Churchgoer. It’s fairly easy to see if I am neglecting the Lord’s calling on my life if one of these areas is hogging all of the time. Given the thoughtful woman that I know you are, I am sharing with you what I have come up with in one area of my life – WIFE. In the days to come, before we hit January 1, I plan to share with you all of my revelations and resolutions. I hope that you do the same as we walk together this beautiful life that God has given us.
I have been trying to figure out how to date my husband since September. It sounds simple, but for me, it hasn’t been. Do we take the morning off of work to spend some time together? Do we plan on the weekend and pay a babysitter? Do I offer another couple to watch their kids once a month if they watch mine? Do we pack them up for the weekend at the grandparents? I was obviously frozen by the options for the last three months. And, then, what do we do? I was lucky enough to chat with another backstage mom at my daughter’s Nutcracker show to get some great ideas. I concluded that we haven’t been having nearly as much fun as we could be. So . . . in January, we are going on a touristy river boat ride we have been talking about since we got married. (This is the Jungle Queen that honked its horn as it passed my wedding ceremony on the river shore.) In February, we are going to the SoBe Food and Wine Festival (that we also have been talking about for years). Both were holiday gifts to him, my beloved. And in March, I think we’ll take a cooking lesson at Sur La Table. There you have it . . . working on being a more fun wife.