I have a crack in my heart because forgiveness just made new sense to me. I don’t mean to say that my heart is broken. The hardness in our hearts, that we all have to one degree or another, just got a crack. The crack is in one of pillars that holds up the hardness.
It’s not easy to scan your heart for hardness. We tend to be numb to our hard spots. Especially when the love of Jesus resides in us. In our efforts to be like Him, we move and we grow, sometimes right around the hard spots. Because God is so good, He loves us as we mature and is pleased by the hope that expands in our hearts. But somewhere in the growth of God in us, we run out of space. The hard spots finally show themselves. They have to go so that we can grow.
I’ve been thinking about this concept of forgiveness. I’ve been thinking about what it means. The thing that keeps coming to mind is treating the person you have forgiven as if the offense or pain never took place. I’ve reached a quagmire at this point. In my heart, I think about the sheer freedom of forgiveness and the idea of treating someone you love like the #$%#^#@& never happened. I literally feel the wings take off in my heart when I think about what that would feel like in real life.
Oh, but real life. #$%#^#@& did happen. And, for some of us, #$%#^#@& happened often or for a long time or maybe even right now. My thoughts consist of 1) how do I make the habit of forgetting the past, 2) how do I transcend to the point that I can trust God whether or not I trust the other person, and 3) how do I, in the right pace, build my trust in the other person? I have a few more what ifs swimming in mind, but I don’t want to give you anymore ideas to freak you out in your own relationships. I am going to take a leap of faith and believe that some of you do a really good job with trust and forgiveness. From friend to friend, ride this one out with me.
For me, part of my ride stopped with the good kind of crack in my heart. Philemon is a little tiny book of the bible. I am not even sure if I could have told you Philemon was a book in the bible until God put the name in my head about a month ago. The whole thing is probably less than 500 words, but the Lord just keeps showing me bits and pieces of it each time He leads me back to it.
I think this is God’s idea of forgiveness: If then you count me as a partner, receive him as you would me. But if he has wronged you or owes you anything put that on my account. Philemon 1:17. It’s Paul talking, but the Holy Spirit delivers it to me this way – – Sasha, if you count me as your partner, receive the him as you would Me. But if he has wronged you and owes you, put that on My account. I then think about the Savior of the world, who gladly took my sin, who knows that my heart doesn’t have the power or strength to forget the wrong against me or what is owed to me. He just offers me to put it on His account. That is power of a living God whose love travels down to the deepest parts of our souls and back to the heavens.
I am all about asking for favors lately. Favors to friends for other friends. Favors from you so we can learn from one another. Today’s favor is that you ask God to find some hard spots in your life, in your heart of hearts. Ask Him to make some cracks.